tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post1122174677230760998..comments2024-03-13T01:38:49.126-04:00Comments on Avoiding Atrophy: A Weird Open Mic (and thoughts on loving people better)Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03769320673829584188noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-71107226576315077132014-06-13T21:38:13.936-04:002014-06-13T21:38:13.936-04:00A. Great Answer: "Look At Him". Love tha...A. Great Answer: "Look At Him". Love that. and 2. Good for you for your life choices and your confidence. I got married before I was 22. Still happily married more than that many years later...okay, 30 years later! He's my fav. person. And MAKES ME LAUGH! I say "when ya know ya know." Cheers.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06187940973442646552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-29021421468709265952014-02-05T10:16:43.821-05:002014-02-05T10:16:43.821-05:00The stigma of being married young seems specific t...The stigma of being married young seems specific to NYC to me. In most other places it's just the opposite. I never think of there being anything "wrong" with my being 30+ and single. But if I lived anywhere else, I'm sure I'd be questioned about it all the time. It's frustrating when people think what's good for them should also be good for you. And I'm sure I do this all the time as well! Thanks for the reminder to stop passing judgement and "live and let live."Leslie Besliehttp://www.lesliebeslie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-43611193380175435482014-02-02T00:55:53.228-05:002014-02-02T00:55:53.228-05:00I try to remember that everyone's path is uniq...I try to remember that everyone's path is unique, it's not my place to judge. Life is too short, do what makes you happy and if things don't turn out hopefully we learn from our choices. Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874631788805792377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-11418135317451988242014-01-29T12:37:19.043-05:002014-01-29T12:37:19.043-05:00The idea that it's somehow wrong to get marrie...The idea that it's somehow wrong to get married in your twenties is so weird. Literally the majority of people in the world get married in their twenties or sooner. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-62547110541080040852014-01-28T15:21:20.347-05:002014-01-28T15:21:20.347-05:00I got married at 23 and was the first one of my fr...I got married at 23 and was the first one of my friends. It never really felt that weird until recently when we moved to the NYC area. I've decided to not let it bug me and instead feel bad that they have not met someone as awesome as my husband... which works sometimes. I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels weird when people bring that up. Being married is awesome :)Steph Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08995001313606121231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-63076741938498278312014-01-28T12:16:32.558-05:002014-01-28T12:16:32.558-05:00"justify a choice that needs no justification..."justify a choice that needs no justification" - you hit the nail on the head. I agree 100%!!<br />It seems we women get these questions way more than men. Why's that? <br />First off: it's nobody's business how we live our lives. Second: why do things that are perfectly normal raise so many questions?? I don't get it. <br />What is so strange about you guys having married in you 20s? Until quite recently that was the norm. I LOVE your response, well done!<br /><br />Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-84821160500759044232014-01-28T11:42:47.933-05:002014-01-28T11:42:47.933-05:00Ugh, that's obnoxious! Glad you handled it wel...Ugh, that's obnoxious! Glad you handled it well. Emily and I got married when we were 22, and then immediately moved to DC, where people wait until they're 30 just to start a savings account, much less get hitched. I've gotten a few "Wow, you're MARRIED?" comments, but haven't really been confronted like you about it. I'll probably steal your response though if I do.Danielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10106299266125258941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-87517639765457392072014-01-28T09:55:27.210-05:002014-01-28T09:55:27.210-05:00Way to go for responding succinctly and humorously...Way to go for responding succinctly and humorously! My strategy is usually to get all red in the fact as I drag out my soapbox. I got married 9 years ago when I was 22, and unfortunately, the justifying of decisions never ends. I totally agreed when Tina Fey said, "Men make decisions, but women have to make choices." And we are constantly called on the carpet for those choices by men and women alike. RAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09122738201603532013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-46547624805873681492014-01-28T09:48:52.887-05:002014-01-28T09:48:52.887-05:00It would be amazing if you could come up with a hi...It would be amazing if you could come up with a hilarious comedy set that addressed this. Makes your point, but also makes the people laugh. Maybe the same people who used you as the butt of their jokes in the last open mic night would have their eyes opened a little bit - in a good way! :)KJ https://www.blogger.com/profile/15205241167202107298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-49901041682101024152014-01-28T09:28:14.187-05:002014-01-28T09:28:14.187-05:00I really enjoyed this post, but at the same time i...I really enjoyed this post, but at the same time it also made me angry that you had to go through with that! Seriously, people need to MIND THEIR BIDNESS!!!!!!Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07872116501901944229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-77411040242408269012014-01-28T02:29:30.476-05:002014-01-28T02:29:30.476-05:00I loved this post! I am a 20 something unmarried w...I loved this post! I am a 20 something unmarried woman and constantly have to field questions as so why am I still single? When will I have children? Why am I so picky? And you are right, I don't need to justify myself to anyone .. Nats ~Coral Tinted Perceptionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176952796396931623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-47729314215964546242014-01-28T00:28:34.555-05:002014-01-28T00:28:34.555-05:00Oh this is just the bee's knees. Seriously. Lo...Oh this is just the bee's knees. Seriously. Love this post. I got married this past August at 24, and you want to know what makes people ask even more intrusive questions? When you get married at 24 and your spouse is in the military. Then people automatically assume it's for the money/benefits. God forbid it's because you love each other and want to be together. Yeesh. I get so worked up about it, but you're totally right; I do the exact same thing to people on Instagram/Facebook/etc. Stuff like this makes me so pumped that I found your blog.Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08696060191693627820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-81945705531274425862014-01-27T23:03:13.802-05:002014-01-27T23:03:13.802-05:00love this x184545785love this x184545785Juliachirpshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16116102882458209833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-66389167687527801382014-01-27T23:01:58.799-05:002014-01-27T23:01:58.799-05:00I love how you took this beyond the normal "w...I love how you took this beyond the normal "why do people ask women but not men" thing (those questions are totally annoying and I too am guilty of asking them... I think it's a human thing ;-) and brought it back to humility and loving people. You basically said it all. So, for what it's worth from a random fan, good job with that! Also, MAD props for putting the bra back on and braving the frigid weather. It takes a lot of motivation and willpower to do that ;-)Yvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03366826691988448425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-53611999590396270712014-01-27T21:59:58.409-05:002014-01-27T21:59:58.409-05:00YES. I am turning 23 in a couple weeks and will be...YES. I am turning 23 in a couple weeks and will be married when I'm 24. Most of the people who know me have never questioned why I should be getting married so young because they know my fiance and me. But other people (also known as the internet) really seem to hate young marriages.<br /><br />Here's the thing...I know plenty of people in their thirties who have no business getting married, plenty of people in their twenties who do, and vise versa. I don't know why people always want women to be on some sort of set timeline. I say women because most of the guys I know are rarely, if ever, questioned about their life plans.<br /><br />So yes, I love this blog post and totally relate. Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06081409556855198686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-928598130851835729.post-52966550089174617362014-01-27T20:55:45.658-05:002014-01-27T20:55:45.658-05:00I've commented on this issue before because I,...I've commented on this issue before because I, too, am in my early twenties and (soon to be) married. I've gotten comments ranging from "You're engaged so why aren't you having babies yet?" to "If you graduate from college with a ring on your finger I will hit you with your bouquet." I did graduate with a ring and she has since withdrawn the promise. I have to agree with your observations, though; these comments are rarely, if ever, aimed at men! (I also want to mention one of my heroes: Zooey Deschanel, who in a red carpet interview, responded to questions about wanting to have a family with "Do you ask the men these things?" Love her.) Anyway, what I'm trying to say is right on, sister! I feel you.<br /><br />Side note: a dear friend of mine (one of my bridesmaids) recently wrote this article that I thought you might appreciate as a fellow 21st-century writer.<br />http://www.ecnmag.com/blogs/2014/01/death-author-or-digital-rebirth-reading)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04143346434202939923noreply@blogger.com